Ring of Spirit

A day for self love…

Hilarie — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 13:43:00 +0000

Happy Valentine’s Day! First, I wish to apologize for stopping my posts…A lot has happened over the past few weeks and what I recognize today is that I ran into blocks to transforming self love. This will happen as you transform that when we get close to a break through we hit a road block. The most wonderful thing about this is that when we become aware of it we can start again. Here we are at Valentine’s day ready to move forward in celebration of love for ourselves and others. Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Ask the angels of love and St. Valentine to bathe you in self love today to support you during your transformation.

Performance Anxiety

Hilarie — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 03:32:14 +0000

Tonight, I witnessed performance anxiety as a reflection in someone else and yesterday had my own experience. So, I am questioning today…What is it I need to know about me surrounding performance anxiety? Upon reflection, I know it is part of the transformation to self love and being aware of how I doubt or discount myself and my abilities. I am blessed with having these moments of keen awareness. Self love is about being aware of the small and large things that push us to that uncomfortable place. When we bring it into our awareness it allows us to begin breaking the cycle it has on us and it is opportunity for transformation into love. It is challenging to fill this space with love but take the opportunity to move through it. When you feel challenged use your tools to help you find the inner guidance to open it to love. I hear a lot from clients they cannot hear inner guidance. I recommend before you are in a crisis find that place where you can quiet your mind some people write, knit, sing, dance, enjoy nature. For me, the tools I turn to most often are InnerSpeak and writing. Go to this place where your mind is quiet and you will hear your guidance. You will know it is your inner guidance because it is loving and supportive.

Slow and Steady…

Hilarie — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 12:59:54 +0000

For me, this transformation to self love is really moving slow and steady. Typically, I work at a very fast pace. With this process I notice that I am taking little baby steps and honoring the process. I feel like this means that it is important to take this slow and don’t push yourself. Allow yourself the time to get into the flow. It is an amazing transformational journey. Opening up to the love within that has been shut off for so long takes time to learn how to trust that you are not going to shut it behind a brick wall again. Trust the pace that it is needing to unravel for you. I would enjoy hearing your experience and offer support to you through this process.

Boundaries vs Brick Walls

Hilarie — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 22:51:50 +0000

As these bricks are beginning to crumble, you may find blessings coming from all different places even from places that are unexpected and sometimes not feel like blessings at all. It may come from someone triggering you to a place of anger, frustration, fear, or wounding your feelings. The blessing in these things are finding what this helped you uncover about your brick wall. Today’s blessing for me was setting healthy boundaries for myself and claiming my power. Boundaries are not brick walls just a drawing a line in the sand that says this is not longer part of my life, I let go of this as part of my life and claim my personal power. I have so many times allowed others to treat me like a rug and push me around by not saying “enough”. By not doing this I did not honor myself or them. It feels empowering and in the flow but the brick feels like you are stuck in this rut and can’t move forward or backward through it. This is how you know the difference between a brick on your wall and a boundary. Do you recognize where you are not setting healthy boundaries and this is contributing to the habit or addiction you are trying to release? If so, put this on your bucket list for clearing.

Rebellion

Hilarie — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 04:06:09 +0000

Tonight another piece of awareness was brought to my attention. This is that rebellious piece to authority figures. I know this may not resonate with all of you. But, since it was brought to my awareness I felt compelled to share this. Be aware of those little things that are coming that you tend to ignore or push off. There is something deep within this that is a part of the wall. For me, what is coming up the little electronic reminders on my to do this, health experts say I must eat this or exercise to be healthy or sticking to a financial budget. It is a piece of me the that is rebellious because I don’t want to give up my control of my life to these things. I have had an issue with authority figures telling me what to do most of my life and I control it the situation by doing the opposite by making the choice to ignore it or taking action in a different direction to prove I am in control not this figure. Add this to your bucket if this resonates as part of your habit or addiction that needs to be explored.

Awareness

Hilarie — Thu, 20 Jan 2011 04:54:37 +0000

Each brick you have placed on your wall desires to come forth now in awareness to you on all levels to allow you to release them so that you may be free of the pain and fears. Not only will it release the pain and fears but it will begin to reprogram the chains that have bound you to this habit or addiction. I feel your anxiety about this exercise. It can be scary to address our inner darkness. We hid this behind our brick wall so that we did not have to face the dark. But, there is divine support available to help you through this. Call the angels to stand to your right, left, front and back and they will support you and give you the courage you need and help you open to receive the miracles in your life.

It’s time to build the bucket list of what is contained on your wall. Get your journal and hand write your answers to create the most power release possible. Stay present with this and then we will clear it away through surrender. Below are questions to reflect on in order to build the bucket list. Maybe all of these don’t resonate with you, only choose the questions that your soul is calling you to answer. The most important thing is to be honest with yourself and don’t rush. Taking care of yourself takes time and you are worthy of this time for yourself. If there is a question you don’t know the answer but needs to be on your bucket list just acknowledge it by adding it to your list. It is ok to not have all the details.

Who or what are you ashamed of?
Who or what are you angry at? Are you angry at yourself?
Who are you holding unforgiveness towards? Have you forgiven yourself?
Who are you judging?
Who or what do you hold contempt for?
What do you feel overly responsible for?
What are you feeling pressured about?
Why are you exhausted?
What are you burdened by?
What is stressing you?
Who or what broke your heart?
How were treated unfairly?
Why do you need this protection?
How does your pride effect your addiction or habit?
Are you being selfish?
Are you jealous?
Are you greedy?
Do you feel lazy?
Who do you feel separated from?
What are you being dishonest about?
Are you being arrogant?
Do you feel inferior to others?
What embarrasses you?
What are you doing to receive the approval from others?
Are there any other emotions that you are aware of that need to be listed? You are not limited to this list.

Today, I shall end with a prayer of gratitude. Healing begins with gratitude.

Dear Mother/Father God, We thank you for giving us the strength and support to face our darkness so that we may heal the addictions and habits that no longer serve us. Thank you for opening us to our awareness of our emotions that have been rejected in order to mask our pain and fears. Thank you for allowing us to surrender all of these burdens to you because these are too great for us to carry any further in our lives. Thank you for creating the miracles the surround this healing. We are eternally grateful. And So It Is.

Held Hostage

Hilarie — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 22:35:29 +0000

Today, I was working on being held hostage by self sabotage. What are you held hostage to? Why are you being held hostage? Maybe this quick InnerSpeak card session will help give you some clarity.

Connect heart to heart with the source of what is holding you hostage. (Tap 3 times at the center of your forehead) This has been set up by a betrayal, lies or being lied to that the source of this has been stuck walking on the wrong path. (Tap 3 times) Which is disrupting your ability to be in a relationship with yourself. (Tap 3 times) To clear this ask yourself what don’t you deserve? (Tap 3 times) Forgive all those that are concerned with you feeling, thinking and experiencing being held hostage. (Tap 3 times) Then ask for your vibration to be raised as high as it is possibly comfortable for you. (Tap 3 times) Confront yourself in a mirror. (Tap 3 times) From this you have received the return of your authority, power and confidence. Take a deep breath and fill your heart with gratitude for this healing and exhale the gratitude from your heart. (Tap 3 times)

Crumbling the Brick Wall

Hilarie — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 03:19:45 +0000

All of us at some point and time have created bricks in our subconscious mind to suppress fearful or painful experiences. By doing this we are blocking off our natural energy flow. When this happens it creates toxicity because this blocked energy does not have anywhere to go. As a result, we may gain weight, smoke, spend too much money, turn to drugs and alcohol, or other dysfunctional habits because we are trying to desensitize ourselves to the suffering. This has become a coping mechanism to live on a day to day basis numbed by what we could not face when the brick was placed on our wall. Today, we will begin to identify with these bricks and surrender them to God for healing. This process is not something you need to rush through. Go through this at your own pace. These bricks did not appear overnight and you may need to reflect on this exercise to connect with the part of you that has been suppressed by this subconscious wall. As you are moving forward through this process, ask God and the angels to support you and give you the courage and strength to stay present and conscious even when it seems hopeless or too difficult. When I feel this way I ask for the angels to stand to my right, left, front and back and it gives me instant power and strength.

Now it is time for us to get to work and look into this. When I am doing this deep work for myself or clients what I do is start what I refer to as a bucket list. To do this you will need a piece of paper and pen. I would even recommend a new journal to help you reflect on later and see how much you have transformed. It is more meaningful and powerful when we hand-write the list.

Close your eyes and breathe deeply. Keep breathing until it is easy and effortless for your mind to be thinking from your root chakra. Allow your thoughts to sink to the place of security and safety.

Open your journal and start with whatever habit, addiction or fear that you want to transform through this process. I am going to refer to this as the force from this point forward. Write it on the top of the page like a title of a book…You can give it a title if you are inspired to be creative. My title will be Recycling Debt because I get out of debt and then have a pattern of creating this cycle over and over again.

Start reading these questions and see where this force is appearing in your day to day life. When you have an answer to one of these questions, write about it in your journal.

Are you experience physical pain, weight gain, disease, or other physical symptoms? For me, the debt shows up as weight gain in my physical body and at this moment a pain radiating down my left arm.

Does it appear in members of your family, friends or co-workers that either makes you jealous, judge, or overall irritatation because of their behaviors? For me, this is seeing my sister and her family going on vacation every year and I can’t do this because I don’t have enough money. Or seeing friends and family that are struggling to get by because of their lack of funds.

Does it appear in how you maintain your home, your yard or a particular room? Right now, it is appearing as little piles of clutter that I just can’t seem to go throw away or straighten.

Does it appear in the news for you? What triggers you to anger when you hear news reports?

What color is this force? What does it look like? I see blackness and it is like being in the dark and you cannot see anything else and it triggers that fear of the dark.

I imagine these questions have prompted some deep inner exploration about your force. Write out anything else that needs to be said in this moment that are your thoughts, emotions, and physical experiences.

Listen to this InnerSpeak Session to help support you in crumbling the brick wall:

InnerSpeak – Transformation to Self Love – Crumbling Brick Wall

Beginning the Transformation to Self Love

Hilarie — Sun, 16 Jan 2011 22:02:14 +0000

At the beginning of 2011, I didn’t know what my next steps were but I knew that God and the angels were guiding me along the way. So, I was listening for the guidance from Spirit. I had seen this book called A Course In Weight Loss: 21 Spiritual Lessons for Surrendering Your Weight Forever by Marianne Williamson. I knew one of my goals for the year was to lose weight and exercise. But, I didn’t buy the book when I first saw it. Then I two of my friends talked about buying this book. So, I decided it was sign that I was supposed to purchase this book. The next morning after I purchased this book before I even opened it, I knew exactly why I was supposed to buy this book. This was not only a path for me to practice more self love but for many others and that I needed to start this blog. Here we are at the beginning of a beautiful creation to love ourselves on a deeper level. I pray that you and I will both find the support and advice that we need to begin this journey together.

First, I want to talk about the title of this book. So, how is a Weight Loss book about Self Love. Isn’t it a diet book? It is a diet book, a diet from the things we do to sabotage our lives such as beating ourselves up for not being good enough, we made a mistake, what we want to hide from and more. All of these things and much more appear in our lives as addictions because we are suppressing the inward pain we feel. The goal is to transform you to a place of self love.

I encourage any of you that are struggling with any type of addiction (financial debt, drugs, alcohol, shopping, work alcoholic, sex, etc) to participate and even purchase this book because this book is not about weight loss it is about learning how to love yourself and as you love yourself the weight of your addictions will fall away.